If you are going through a divorce and you are a parent, one of the greatest concerns you may have is the effect the divorce will have on the children. As a parent, there are some things you can do to assist your children in making the adjustment.
If possible, you and your spouse should be present when telling children about the divorce. You and your spouse should discuss what you tell your children prior to the initial conversation you have with them. Also, you and your spouse should keep your explanations simple and avoid placing blame.
Your children should understand that the divorce is not a result of their behavior or anything that they did. You should also explain to your children that there is nothing they can do to change the situation and it is not their responsibility to "fix" the current situation.
Your children need to know that the love shared between a parent and child is different from the love that is shared between a husband and wife. Your children should understand that the love you have for them will not change and will last forever.
If at all possible, try to keep your children in a stable environment that has minimal change. This could include:
Remember, children need a relationship with both parents. While a person may not be a good marriage partner, they can still be an excellent parent.
You may want to consider speaking with a divorce attorney to assist you with matters of child custody and child support. If you are in need of a divorce lawyer, you can contact Total Lawyers at 877-421-3761 or complete our divorce case evaluation form. We will quickly put you in touch with a divorce attorney in your area that can help you with the specifics of your case.